(Un)Grateful Dead

That title will apply to Kate if she doesn’t get it together!

I’m not really going to off her, but my goodness there are times I’d like to wring her neck.

Like yesterday, for example.

We were visiting Sleeping Bear Dunes, which just this week was named “Most Beautiful Place in America” on GMA. It is stunning.

We visited last year and had a wonderful time and had been anxious to go again this year. However, as soon as we got there, it was clear that Kate was in one of her “I’m going to be a pain in the ass and there’s nothing you can do about it” moods. Yay!

Unfortunately those moods have been becoming more and more frequent. No matter what we do or where we go, it’s not good enough or we don’t stay long enough or SOMETHING makes her miserable. Which, in turn, makes us all miserable.

Jenny and I have actually both been struggling with this ungratefulness in our oldest children, and we’ve talked about it a lot.

However, we have no solutions.

So, readers, we turn to you. Have you dealt with this kind of thing? Did your kids grow out of it or did you beat it out of them? Or is there a more effective method to change their behavior?

Because seriously, if you can look at this view and STILL be in a terrible mood, I don’t know what to tell you.

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Setting kids up for success

Antique school desk

We’re pretty embroiled in getting ready for back to school, and based on the conversations, posts and pictures on Facebook, Twitter and blogs, most of the rest of you are too!

It’s extremely important to my husband and me that our kids do well in school and have a positive experience – and that they provide a positive experience for their teachers as well. Aka, behave yourself!

I’m doing a series of posts about BTS for Country Crock, and this week’s theme is setting kids up for success in school. Since my husband is a teacher, I turned to him for ideas. Here are a few things we came up with that we as parents can do to help our kids be successful:

— Encourage reading. This is a pretty basic tip, obviously, but it’s a big one. Andy teaches science, but he often talks about how crucial reading comprehension skills are for success in every subject – kids have to be able to read and understand what’s being asked of them, regardless of if it is a literature exam or a chemistry test. Reading is the foundation for everything! And it’s one of life’s great pleasures, in my opinion. So, read to your kids, obviously, but demonstrate the importance of reading in your life by visiting the library together, having books in your home, and reading yourself! The next time I’m trying to read a book and Kate wants me to do something for her, I’m going to say “Not now, I’m trying to be a good example for you!”

— Stay involved. It’s important for kids to know that what they do at school matters to us – the bad things AND the good things. We usually go around the dinner table and ask each other what the best and worst parts of our days were. It gives us all an opportunity to tell about things we’re excited about, proud of, or worried about, but it also gives Andy and me insight into what goes on during Sam and Kate’s days. We also make an effort to let their teachers know that we support them and want to partner with them in regards to our kids. Since I don’t do drop off or pick up for Kate, it takes a little extra effort to stay clue in to her school life, but I think it’s important to do so.

— Cover the basics. We can’t usually be in the room helping our kids learn throughout the day, but what we do before and after school makes a huge impact on their behavior and ability to learn. It’s our job as parents to provide for their basic needs – only we can make sure they get enough sleep and eat a good breakfast!

Ok, that’s all I’ve got! But of course I want to hear from you. What tips for helping your kids succeed can you share with all of us?
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Disclosure: Compensation was provided by Country Crock via Glam Media. The opinions expressed herein are those of the author and are not indicative of the opinions or positions of Country Crock.

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What Sophie learned on her summer vacation

Last week I told you what I learned on my summer “vacation” – how to French braid Sophie’s hair!  Well, I wasn’t the only Rapson who wanted to learn something this summer.  For a long time, Sophie has been able to recognize a lot of words and in the spring I noticed several times that she was really trying to read.  Not just books, but road signs, cereal boxes, what I was looking at on Facebook *ahem* – you know, anything with words.

So, at the beginning of summer when I received a pitch from School Zone Publishing asking if I’d like to review their “Start to Read” series of phonics readers, I was all, “Why not?”  They arrived just as summer began and we got started.

The set comes with 5 readers, a comprehension workbook, and a CD. At first I thought listening to the books on CD while looking at them was going to be weird and unnecessary(I mean, after all, can’t she listen to ME reading them?) but she LOVED listening to the book being read on CD while she looked at it. And then, loved reading along with the CD.  After that, we progressed to where I’d read a page, then she’d read the next page.  Soon she was reading on her own.  We went through all five books like that and then the workbook, which she ADORED.  Sophie loves a good workbook!  There was a good variety of comprehension activities in the workbook and she really had fun with it.  I had to stop her from doing the whole thing in one sitting like she wanted to do.

We went on vacation July 2, and we were done with the series by then.  Since then, we have not picked up any of those books to read, so last night, I got out Sophie’s favorite from the series, Get Lost, Becka and bribed her with a piece of candy to read it on video.  So, again, she hasn’t read this book for 6 or 7 weeks – I think she did great!  What do you think? (Oh, and um, sorry about all the snot wiping, she had been crying a few minutes before over something I was denying her because I am SUCH A MEAN MOM, I can’t even remember what. Oh, and then sorry also about Joshua’s BANSHEE yelling in the background, he was entertaining Jonah while Sophie and I made the video!)

What do you think? I think she did a great job! We’ve since moved on to an Usborne Books phonics set and she is doing great with those as well. I am proud of my little reader!

Thanks, School Zone, for letting us try the books!

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